Rob Kanzer, Executive Life and Business Coach
Today we bring you Rob Kanzer to tell you why coaching is not limited to just sports and share with you the tricks of communicating effectively, either in a corporate setting or personally.
“Coaching is a deep spiritual practice of being present now.”
Coaching is generally associated with sports but it is now becoming a vital part of a corporate environment as well. A good coach should provide you with actionable insights and the clarity to work towards your goals. Today we bring you Rob Kanzer to tell you why coaching is not limited to just sports and share with you the tricks of communicating effectively, either in a corporate setting or personally.
Rob has been trained under the guidance of Marshall Rosenberg, the founder of NVC, Non-Violent Communication. He has over forty years of experience in guiding and inspiring people yearning for more effective methods of interpersonal communication and inner peace. In the interview, he shares the common errors people make while communicating and provides solutions to eliminate the errors.
“The number one mistake people make is that they lead with an argument instead of listening.”
According to Rob, the best way to communicate is to become a good listener first. Instead of looking at the exact words spoken by the other person, one must look at the feeling behind those words to effectively understand the meaning behind those words. Second, you must look at the need behind those emotions that are being expressed.
Many times, corporate leaders tend to push people in a certain way to get things done. Rob asks if compassion and care would be a better driver instead. He gives actionable measures that can improve conversations in a corporation.
‘There’s a reason why we have a cliche that we’ve all heard. “It’s lonely at the top.” Some of my clients will say to me, I can’t stand this, I can’t stand my boss, they’re not paying attention to me. Have you ever taken the time to invite your boss for a cup of coffee and to listen and ask him about his children? We think because we’re an employee we buy into this top-down communication and unwittingly we cement it into place by having this negative impression instead of seeing the other as a human being. So in my training that I do with corporations, instead of sitting one person here and one person there, we all sit in a circle.”
In the next segment, Rob explains how introverts can become better at communicating. He explains how everyone is wanting to get heard and even introverts can enhance their interpersonal communication skills. He gives an example of Mahatma Gandhi and exclaims how Gandhi was able to put his point forward in a quiet and calm manner. According to Rob, a conversation that happens with all your heart holds the capacity to create an impact on the minds of the listeners.
Tune in to this inspirational discussion and learn how to communicate effectively.